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My fiancee doesn’t let me go on social media and gives me permission to see friends

CONTROL FREAK

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE to ask my fiancée’s permission to hang out with my friends.

I am not allowed on social media, she checks my phone and tells me what I can watch on TV as she doesn’t want me ogling girls.


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This feels demeaning as we are both adults – I am 27 and she is 25.
If I tell her about people I have chatted to at work she bombards me with questions. When she came to a works party, it was mainly to make sure I did not get too close to anyone.
We often argue and she becomes very aggressive. She got very angry when she caught me looking at porn.
I have never cheated on her and never would. Since we got together I have stopped drinking with my mates but she has become even more controlling.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your fiancée is deeply insecure and lacks self-confidence. She sees everyone, even girls on TV, as a threat.

Don’t give in to unreasonable demands as that justifies her fears as being reasonable. Reassure her how much you love her but don’t accept her being angry and aggressive.

My e-leaflet Coping With Jealousy will help you both.

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