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I want to see my son before it’s too late but I can’t get in contact and his mother just gives me abuse


DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I try to make contact with my son it just comes to nothing.

He is 27 – old enough to make his own decisions.

I think he still lives with his mother but if I phone her I get abuse, although we parted 15 years ago.

I have tried writing but I get no reply.

I wonder if she passes on my letters and messages.

Maybe she tells him I am a wicked person but I’d have thought that curiosity alone would make him want to meet his father.

I am getting on, 61 next birthday, and I would like to see him before it is too late.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds like his mother has hung on to feeling bitter and this is a way to get at you.

Be honest with yourself.

Is she justified in feeling angry?

If you know you fell short, saying sorry might soften her – and him.

If not, my e-leaflet Tracing Someone explains other ways you can try to contact him.

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