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Mother's anguish after daughter dies from cancer but comatose father battling Covid doesn't know

A mother has spoken of her anguish after her daughter died and her husband still doesn't know because he is in a coma with Covid.

Debbie Morris, 38, died eight months after first complaining of stomach pains.

But her father David, 50, doesn't know of his daughter's death as he is in hospital battling Covid.

Debbie's mum Susan, 56, said: 'It's devastating that he's in a coma and doesn't know about Debbie.

'We're waiting to see what happens but I can't lose my husband, I've already lost my daughter.'

Susan described Debbie, from Widnes, as someone who 'lit up every room she was in' and 'never stopped smiling'.

Susan Morris has described her anguish after her daughter Debbie (pictured) died from cancer but Debbie's father still does not know as he has been hospitalised with Covid and is in a coma

She began complaining of pain on her left side and was unable to eat or drink without being violently sick on Christmas Eve 2020.

Debbie, who had severe learning difficulties, lost almost four stone in a matter of months which led to her family seeking help from doctors.

Susan said: 'We had been back and to the doctors and the hospital so many times because they didn't know what was wrong with her.

'It got to the point where she couldn't take her medicine for her thyroid problems and that's when I got really worried.'

After already being sent home from the hospital, accident and emergency and doctors before, Susan described the day she knew her daughter was seriously ill and needed immediate help.

She said: 'I rang the doctor and told them she was a mess.

'She was being violently sick, her bladder had gone and she was just shouting for help. It was really awful.

'I told the doctor she needed to see somebody and I will not rest until she does.'

Debbie died after doctors discovered she was suffering from terminal cancer of the bladder, colon, liver, and lymph nodes as well as ulcerative colitis. Pictured: Debbie Morris as a baby

The first round of tests led doctors to believe she possibly had Crohns Disease or ulcerative colitis.

But once more results and scans came back the family were told Debbie had ulcerative colitis and terminal cancer in her bladder, colon, liver and lymph nodes.

Susan said: 'I told them they needed to check again because I didn't believe it, I heard somebody screaming but I didn't realise it was me.

'I thought they were going to tell us she would need a colostomy bag and I was ready for that news and knew we could cope, this just came out of nowhere.'

The family was told Debbie had a matter months left to live.

Chemotherapy was an option but would only add days or weeks to her life, and would come with a lot of pain and discomfort.

Susan and David decided to take Debbie home after she became uncomfortable with the needles in her arms and being in hospital.

Over the next month the family began making memories with Debbie, making sure she spent plenty of time in the paddling pool in the garden, as she loved to swim.

Her family made sure Debbie made some good memories in her last month before she died

As her condition gradually declined, the family requested a wheelchair so they could take Debbie to more places.

Sadly on Friday July 30 at around 3.30am Debbie died.

Susan said: 'I was next to her and had been reminding her I was here to help calm her down overnight.

'The last thing I said to her was 'night night sweetheart, I love you' and she said 'I love you too' back.

'I woke up to go to the toilet and came back to see her blanket was off her shoulder, when I touched her she was freezing cold.

'I started tapping her and asking her if she was okay but she didn't respond, she was so cold. I called my daughter, Natasha, because I didn't know if she was in a deep sleep or if she had gone. She was gone.'

She added: 'Doctors said she passed very peacefully, and beautifully, with no signs of any distress or pain what so ever.'

Although the family were aware Debbie's cancer was aggressive, they did not expect to lose her so soon.

As it happened so quickly and unexpectedly, no funeral arrangements were made and the family are raising money for her to have the 'most perfect and princessy' final goodbye.

A GoFundMe page, which was created on August 1 has already received £3,500 of donations, with the family hoping to raise £5,000 in total.

Susan said: 'I can't thank the people who have already donated enough, thank you isn't even the right word.

'Everyone has been so generous and it means the world and more to us.'

Debbie leaves behind her mum, Susan, dad, David, and siblings Kayleigh, Alysha, Andrew, Michael, Carl and Natasha along with her partner, Nate.

To donate to the family's GoFundMe click here.

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