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Mother-of-eight forgives partner after he confessed to cheating on her with three other women

A mother-of-eight forgive her partner after he confessed to cheating on her with three other women - whilst she was six months pregnant.

Single mum Valencia Cy, 39, from Ealing, West London, thought she'd met 'the one' when she fell for Jino Muzongo, also 39.

The charmer contacted her via Facebook messenger on her birthday, in December 2012, asking to take her on a date.

Despite Valencia's fear of getting hurt again, the pair dated and quickly fell in love - even meeting each other's children.

The couple moved in together in 2013, but Valencia - who runs her own cleaning business - then found sexual messages from another woman on his phone.

Single mum Valencia Cy, 39, thought she'd met 'the one' when she fell for Jino Muzongo, also 39. Pictured here together at their West London home

Livid, she confronted Jino, who denied he was cheating and explained it was simply a persistent ex-girlfriend.

Valencia - who had six children by two previous relationships - decided to believe him after taking advice from family.

But Jino's behaviour did not improve and he would stay out for days at a time, sometimes coming home with lipstick stains on his shirt.

However it wasn't until June 2015, when she was six months pregnant with their first child together, Jino finally confessed all - after becoming 'overwhelmed with guilt'.

The love rat tearfully admitted having three other girlfriends - but promised he was finally ready to commit to Valencia.

Valenica was able to forgive her partner's infidelity and the couple - who married in January 2017 - have been deliriously happy ever since.

The charmer contacted her via Facebook messenger on her birthday, in December 2012, asking to take her on a date. Matthew Mangituka 15, Valencia, Kingdom Muzongo 22 months on mum's lap, Jino and Marien Muzongo,four (L-R)

Valencia said: 'We have been through a lot together and forgiveness didn't come easy, but it's been the best decision I've ever made, we're happier than ever now.

'I first suspected Jino of cheating when I found a text from another woman.

'It said: "I love you and can't wait to see you".

'It wasn't the first time I'd found dodgy messages on his phone, but he'd always wormed his way out of it before.

'When I confronted him about it he just said it was his ex, and that she wouldn't leave him alone.

'I knew he was lying but couldn't prove it. 

'He was such a good boyfriend and so good with the kids, I really wanted to believe him. So I decided not to be suspicious anymore and just take it at face value, but it was hard as he kept acting really oddly.

'I tried to call him out on his disappearances and dodgy behaviour, but I wanted to do it calmly.

Valencia and Jino on their wedding day. Valenica was able to forgive her partner's infidelity and they married in 2017

'He'd always say nothing was going on so I chose to accept what he said.

'When he confessed six months later, it was like a weight had been lifted.

'It was so good to hear him admit it all. I could see the guilt and the upset in his eyes and I just knew things were going to be different from then on - and they have been.

'We've got 11 kids between us now and we've never been happier. We're married now and I trust my husband with my life.'

Jino added: 'I deeply regret what I did because I made Valencia feel insecure and confused and it could have ruined my family.

'I did it because I was insecure about my own feelings and I just didn't trust anyone and as it I was cheated on in the past.

'I felt that I wanted to punish all women without thinking, but Valencia was innocent and she had nothing to do with what I had gone through before. If I could turn back time I would.'

Jino Muzongo with his boys Marien and Kingdom. It wasn't until  2015, when Valencia was pregnant with their first child, Jino confessed - after becoming 'overwhelmed with guilt'

The pair, who met through friends in 2010, started dating in 2012 when Jino approached his now-wife on Facebook on her 32nd birthday.

They began to text and she admitted she was 'lonely', prompting Jino to offer to take her out to celebrate.

The next day the pair went on a date to a French restaurant in central London and the chemistry was 'immediately electric.'

Jino explained he already had three kids from two previous relationships and they bonded over both having children and their shared love of music.

Valencia is mum to Emanuel, 20, Matthew, 14, Joshua, 12, Samuel, 11, Keziah, nine, and Dominic, seven, from her previous relationships.

Jino has three children from his previous relationships. Together they now have sons, Marien, four, and Kingdom, 20 months.

Valencia began to notice red flags in the first few months of their budding relationship. She said: 'He would take his phone with him wherever he went and would go outside for secret calls.

'Aside from my trust issues the relationship was amazing in all other ways - our sex life was incredible and he was amazing with the kids,' Valencia said on Jino, right 

'He was a van driver it made it easier for him to hide what he was doing and would often 'work late'.

'He was always texting a lot too and I just had a hunch that something wasn't right, but I'd been badly burned before and so I assumed that it was just my own issues rearing their ugly head.

'Aside from my trust issues the relationship was amazing in all other ways - our sex life was incredible and he was amazing with the kids.'

Although she suspected him of being unfaithful over the subsequent months, Valencia chose to hope that he wasn't.

Just days after discovering the dodgy texts, Valencia discovered that she was carrying their first child together, in January 2015, and she hoped Jino would stay loyal to their family.

She said: 'It was hard watching him on his phone or going out 'to work' but as I never knew exactly when he was cheating anyway, it was easy for me to assume the best.

'When we found out I was pregnant I really did think that would make all the difference to him and there would be no more messing around on his part.'

Valencia said when he 'came clean' she felt relieved. She added: 'My prayers had been answered, he was all mine!'

She said when he 'came clean' she felt relieved. She added: 'My prayers had been answered, he was all mine!

'I was really shocked though, especially that it was three other girlfriends... I thought he might just be having a few flings here and there.

'Although he reassured me that he was going out with the others before me and had never expected to fall in love with me.

'He said I was the one that made him change his ways because he really fell for me.

'I obviously didn't let him totally off the hook, we had some deep chats so he could fully explain why he'd done it.'

The loved up pair, who have since had another baby, have gone from strength to strength since his confession.

Valencia is even training as a life coach and hopes to be able to use her experiences to help others.

Jino said: 'I wish I'd just been honest with my feelings and maybe tell her about my past she would have made sure I had help and would have helped me work on my insecurities'

She said she 'trusts him 100%' but has his Facebook and Instagram passwords, and said he strays again 'he'd be straight out that door'.

Jino said: 'I wish I'd just been honest with my feelings and maybe tell her about my past she would have made sure I had help and would have helped me work on my insecurities.

'My wife is such a nice woman but I just didn't trust anyone at the time I was scared that I will be judged and maybe hurt again.

'We are in such a good place - we have 11 kids between us she is an amazing mum and step mum to my kids.

'She is everything any man would hope for and we looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

'We're now trying to make our dreams come true which is telling the world about our ups and down and help others breakthrough they relationship problems because with love, patience and faith you can overcome anything.'