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'Man wh**e' officer weeps as he tells murder trial 'I'm responsible' for killing mistress

A 'womanising' police officer today wept on the stand as he admitted he was 'responsible' for killing his nurse lover but insisted that he 'absolutely did not' intend to murder her. 

Timothy Brehmer, 41, is accused of murdering mother-of-two Claire Parry in a Dorset pub car park on May 9 after she sent his wife a text message revealing their 10-year affair. 

The police constable, of Hordle, Hampshire, who at the time of the incident was seconded to the National Police Air Service based at Bournemouth Airport, denies murder but has pleaded guilty to manslaughter. 

Brehmer, who was called to give evidence for the first time today, broke down in Salisbury Crown Court as he took responsibility for Mrs Parry's death.

The defendant wept and told the court he 'might need more tissues' as he claimed he 'must have used too much force'.

But the PC, who was wearing glasses, a white and blue shirt with blue trousers, insisted he 'absolutely did not' intend to murder the nurse.

He said: 'I'm responsible for her death. I must have [used too much force]. I absolutely did not want to kill her or cause serious bodily harm. I didn't intend to kill her.' 

Describing the affair, sobbing Brehmer said: 'We didn't have to worry about the domestic things at home, you could be all of your good things, not your bad things, none of your vulnerabilities.

'It was a suspended state of your best self. It was an affair, that's what you have an affair for.' 

Salisbury Crown Court heard that PC Timothy Brehmer, who was called to give evidence for the first time today, admitted being 'responsible' for killing her after Claire Parry revealed their 10-year affair to his wife (a court artist sketch of Brehmer as he becomes emotional)

Timothy Brehmer, 41, is alleged to have strangled Claire Parry (pictured) in a Dorset pub car park on May 9 after she sent a text message to his wife revealing their affair

He said that over the years, they would go for months without seeing each other, and in the months prior to Mrs Parry's death they rarely saw each other because of lockdown and only communicated through a mobile phone app called Telegram. 

Brehmer added: 'I didn't want to inadvertently destroy my family, which has happened anyway, so the relationship we had, Claire and I, it was compartmentalised as it was and had been for years.

'It was its own little bubble, a little bubble of niceness.'

He said he was unaware that Mrs Parry had contacted his earlier lover Kate Rhodes, a police colleague, and had not known that Mrs Parry and her husband, Andrew, had been seeing a marriage guidance counsellor.

He said: 'Claire made out everything was under control, I didn't know it was to that big an extent it was all coming apart at the seams as far as their relationship was concerned.'

But Brehmer did describe how Mr Parry, also a police officer, had called him after becoming suspicious of their affair in March and Mrs Parry had been sending him notes on WhatsApp during the conversation so they could keep their stories straight. 

PC Timothy Brehmer is accused of murdering his mistress, mother-of-two Claire Parry (right)

He said: 'I knew that he had found out about something or other but I didn't know the extent.'

Brehmer said he had offered a 'hiatus' to their affair but Mrs Parry had said she did not want to stop.

He added: 'I didn't want to be the reason her family fell apart and she didn't want to be the reason my family fell apart.' 

Brehmer admitted that he had been 'moonlighting' on his job by carrying out odd jobs to earn 'adventure money' to pay for special treats.

He also told the court that during his time as a traffic officer, he was assaulted causing a dislocation of his thumb leading to him being off sick for several months and requiring counselling.

Brehmer today told jurors he 'always' wore his wedding ring when he had affairs and said his marriage has been 'destroyed'.

He admitted he acted 'cowardly' in not telling his wife, DC Martha Brehmer, about his affair with nurse Claire Parry because it 'suited him' not to. 

The court has heard Brehmer, 41, 'angrily and deliberately' strangled mother-of-two Mrs Parry in his Citroen after she threatened to reveal their 10-year affair to his detective wife 

The court has heard Brehmer, 41, 'angrily and deliberately' strangled mother-of-two Mrs Parry in his Citroen after she threatened to reveal their 10-year affair to his detective wife 

The court heard details of his affair with A&E nurse Mrs Parry after they met through their work in 2006, the same year he married DC Brehmer.

Their affair began years later and Brehmer told jurors at Salisbury Crown Court, Wiltshire, it was 'compartmentalised'.

He said: 'It wasn't sexual initially. It was sexually flirtatious, predominantly by text and infrequently but it developed. I didn't tell her I was married and similarly she didn't tell me she was married.

'The relationship was very compartmentalised, we didn't talk about our family or family units because we both loved them separately. She was very proud of her family and I was very proud of mine.' 

He added: 'Being with her was like being in a suspended state of your best self. I didn't have to worry about the domestic stuff at home. You can be all your good things and none of your bad things come out.

'She was incredibly confident and independent, she told me about how much she worked and earned and how she was the breadwinner of the family.

'You didn't talk about the bad things — it was an affair, it's what you have an affair for.'

Brehmer said the affair would be 'on and off', sometimes going up to five months without seeing her but then seeing her twice in a week. 

PC Timothy Brehmer (pictured with his wife) is accused of murdering nurse Claire Parry, a mother-of-two, in a grey Citroen C1 after she threatened to reveal their 10-year affair

When Mrs Parry's marriage was falling apart in the months before her death, Brehmer was asked if he thought about telling his wife and said he didn't.

'It was cowardly I suppose', he said. 'I didn't think I needed to tell Martha, Claire said it was all under control.

'It suited me not to tell Martha, I didn't want it inadvertently destroying my family, which has happened anyway.'

The officer, who has been described as a 'man whore', also revealed he didn't take his wedding ring off.

He said: 'I felt it was a very quick, flirtatious sexualised interaction. It was 50-50, it was a fling.

'I was not seeing Claire at the time, albeit I was married to Martha.

'We didn't have sexual intercourse, there was a mutual attraction and sexual contact.

'I didn't tell her I was married but [my wedding ring] was always on, I never took it off.'

Brehmer, a road traffic officer, revealed he was left 'depressed' after being assaulted by a motorist in 2015 and was scared of the frontline.

Bodycam footage played to the jury at court shows Dorset police officer Brehmer sobbing as he is treated in an ambulance after the death of his lover Claire Parry

Bodycam footage played to the jury at court shows Dorset police officer Brehmer sobbing as he is treated in an ambulance after the death of his lover Claire Parry 

He 'felt like a failure' because he couldn't tell his 'high-flying' wife he received counselling after being attacked by the 56 year old, which left him with a dislocated thumb that 'pointed backwards'.

Brehmer said: 'I had been ragged around like an empty tracksuit, it really kicked my confidence and self esteem and I became very depressed but I don't want to use that word.

'It knocked me and I became very conflict-averse, I didn't want to go back to the frontline. I had counselling but didn't tell my wife — it was professional embarrassment.

'She's a very intelligent police officer, she is high flying and I felt I was a failure on my part to not 'man up buttercup', if you will.'

Brehmer, speaking about a confrontation with Mrs Parry's husband Andrew, said she was feeding him messages to 'get their stories right'.

The Dorset Police officer has previously suggested Mrs Parry died from 'positional asphyxia' and today he said he received training about it and was 'one of the things that stuck with him'.

Speaking about his early life, he said he was raised in Rhodesia, which is now Zimbabwe, and went to university in New Zealand but came back to Hampshire in the UK in 1999. 

He previously worked as a family liaison officer and had to tell families — including the parents of a three year old boy — their their relatives had died in car crashes.

The trial continues tomorrow.  

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