Sophie Ellis-Bextor has spoken out about being raped at the age of 17 by a 29-year-old musician.

The singer says she told the guitarist 'no' but lost her virginity to him after going back to his flat.

Recalling the ordeal publicly for the first time, Sophie said she was left feeling 'stupid and ashamed' by what happened.

The Murder on the Dancefloor singer said she is now ready for voice to be heard as she spoke of the incident in new autobiography Spinning Plates, which has been serialised in the Mail on Sunday.

"If anyone else has been through something similar, it might help us all talk about it," she said.

Sophie said she met the man at a gig when she was studying for A level history and went back to his flat to see his study books.

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has spoken for the first time about being raped at the age of 17 by a 29-year-old musician who invited her to his flat (


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Recalling what happened next, Sophie said: "[The man] and I started kissing and before I knew it we were on his bed and he took off my knickers.

"I heard myself saying ‘No’ and ‘I don’t want to’, but it didn’t make any difference.

"He didn’t listen to me and he had sex with me and I felt so ashamed. It was how I lost my virginity and I felt stupid.

"I remember staring at Jim’s bookcases and thinking: I just have to let this happen now."

The singer said she didn't think she would have a case against the man at the time as the incident 'wasn't violent' (


Sophie is now happily married to Richard Jones, with whom she shares five sons (



Sophie said that consent was viewed differently when she was a teenager and she didn't think she would have a case against the man as she wasn't 'pinned own or shouted out.'

After keeping the incident a secret for 25 years, Sophie said she felt 'complicit.'

"All that happened was I wasn’t listened to. Of the two people there, one said yes, the other said no, and the yes person did it anyway.

"The older I’ve become, the more stark that 29-year-old man ignoring 17-year-old me has seemed," said Sophie, adding that she never saw the man again.

Sophie with her mum, former Blue Peter presenter Janet Ellis (



Sophie, who now shares five sons with her husband Richard Jones, went on to say that she does not want to 'name and shame' the man.

Instead she said she was sharing her story in a bid to help other women and said that she will ensure her boys are taught about consent.

The musician is the daughter of journalist and TV producer Robin Bextor and former Blue Peter presenter Janet Ellis.

Bextor and Ellis split when Sophie was four-years-old.

Sophie followed in their famous footsteps and pursued a career in music.

She sang lead vocals in indie band Theaudience before collaborating with DJ Spiller in 2000, lending her vocals to the dance track Groovejet (If This Ain't Love) which became her first number one single.

A year later Sophie released her debut album read My Lips, which reached number two on the UK charts and spawned four top twenty singles.