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My partner seems more interested in his parents than in our relationship


DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner seems more interested in his parents’ ­wellbeing than in our relationship. He visits them several times a week. He says they need his help but they seem fine to me.

On the rare occasions we go out as a couple, members of his family ring or text him all the time.

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He is 43 and I am 41. He lived with his parents until we met a couple of years ago.

He visits them after work pretty much every day. If I suggest we do something else, he says he first needs to check they are all right.

I can’t see why as they’re fine.
I love him and he says he loves me, but it is as though he is anxious about being separated from Mummy and Daddy, which I find very odd in a man of his age.

DEIDRE SAYS: After four decades living at home, two of them as an adult, it must feel a huge change to him.

Don’t see them as rivals for his love but focus on strengthening your relationship, ensuring you share lots of activities.

If he first wants to check they are OK, let him. One day you may be glad he is such a caring guy.

My e-leaflet Standing Up For Yourself will help you.

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