Dear Deddle: My husband broke my heart when he tricked me into a childhood unrequited love.
We managed to stay together, but I'm by my side and she's there because he's going to school reunion next week.
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I am 41 years old and my husband is 43 years old. I have been married for 16 years and have two boys, 12 and 11 years old.
Two years ago, my husband went out drinking with two old school friends, a woman and a man, one night.
We were happy and relieved, so we didn't hit our eyelids.
The next morning when there were no signs of him, I began to worry. I dialed countless times on his cell phone, but he didn't answer.
Using Find My Phone, I found him on the other side of the town, so I decided to go home.
I was on the way and he finally called.
He and his schoolboy friend returned to the woman's house for more drinks and told me they fell asleep. Something in my gut said he was lying, so I asked him to talk to him. I heard a female voice in the background.
Stuttering, he said he had just left. So I told him on the way, and it would be nice to meet his other school friends. In the end, my husband admitted that he had ruined.
When he got home, he couldn't apologize enough.
He always fell in love with her at her school, but she told me she wasn't interested. So when she started flirting with him, he lost his head.
We were together and managed to patch, even though we had never actually admitted that he had cheated.
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I think it's unfair, so I can't tell you not to go back to see me, but every time I think about it, I cry.
I'm worried. She flutters her eyelashes again and he gets lost.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband's affair was a terrible shock. School reunions can be notorious for pushing the boundaries of trust between partners.
You can't change your mood. All you can do is express your opinion and hope that your husband will respect them.
If you trust your husband, tell him about your fears and let him know that he expects to behave like a happy married man at this reunion. please give me.
You have children to consider and they will be nervous even if they don't say anything. If it's just for them, you have to move this situation in some way.
Make your own plans for the night so you don't sit at home imagining the worst.
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