A mum is debating changing her son's birthday to a different date as she says it's "inconvenient" and they can't celebrate properly.

The woman took to Mumsnet to share her thought process, asking if it would be unreasonable to pick another day for her four-year-old to celebrated.

He was born on Boxing Day, and the family's traditional festivities often mean she can't make his day as special as she would like.

But other parents were divided on her controversial ideas.

The anonymous woman said the date hadn't been a problem until last year, when Christmas holiday opening hours stopped the celebrations.

She explained: "It really was rubbish that we couldn't do anything special on the day due to nothing being open.

"This year just gone the weather was rubbish so we couldn't even go out for a nice walk or play in the garden.

She said it was "inconvenient" because a lot of shops were closed so she couldn't plan any celebrations

"He only has baby DS so no other children to play with, so on his last birthday he really misbehaved due to being bored/having cabin fever/having had far too many presents and focus just on Christmas Day let alone more on his birthday. I felt sad for him as we couldn't make it special."

She faces other guilt as her other son's birthday falls on a normal day, which means they can celebrate in style with balloons, banners, presents and a trip to the local soft play centre.

She also added that she'd just celebrated her other son's birthday, which was a success - balloons, banners, presents for when he woke up and lunch at a soft play centre - and would have liked the same for her other son's birthday.

She asked Mumsnet users whether she would be unreasonable to change her son's birthday to December 28, so that they were able to make it special.

She said: "I felt sad for him as we couldn't make it special"

She writes: "We're always at my parents as we go there Christmas Day and it's not an option to not stay there Christmas Day night

"Because my parents get to see him on his birthday it's only fair that we invite in-laws too, who although I get along with them, they are a pain.

"I have a good relationship with my own parents but they're a bit fussy/controlling on Christmas and his birthday (understandably so I guess as it's at their house!) so it's always been us/them awkwardly hosting ILs.

"Which was fine when DS [darling son] was little but as he gets older he doesn't like too much fuss/formality.

"He only has baby DS so no other children to play with, so on his last birthday he really misbehaved due to being bored/having cabin fever/having had far too many presents and focus just on Christmas Day let alone more on his birthday.

She wanted to change his birthday to December 28

"Would I be unreasonable to change DS' birthday to a couple of days later, say the 28th of December?

"We would be at home and all the Christmas presents would be unpacked/put away, everything would be open again so we could go to softplay/lunch/McDonald's/museum/whatever HE wants to do, and we would have control over the day with it being in our house so could make it special, no pressure on him."

But, Mumsnet users were divided.

One said: "If it’s good enough for the Queen, then I don’t see why he can’t have an official birthday and an actual one".

And another said: "Just celebrate on a different day?? Don't get the issue to be fair. This is all in your remit".

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Whereas many others disagreed:

"Yes you would be unreasonable! His birthday is the 26th it’s shit but it’s what it is, pretending it’s on a different day will be confusing when he is older not to mention it’s simply lying to him so you don’t feel so guilty."

"You mean pretend to him that his birthday is on a different day? Why on earth would you do that?"

"I can't believe you are actually suggesting pretending to him that his birthday is on say, 28th December. Just do what pretty much everyone else has suggested and have a quiet day on his actual birthday if need be and then celebrate more fully on any other day of your choosing."