DEAR DEIDRE: THE other day, my neighbour invited me in for a “nice Christmas drink” – but I didn’t enjoy it. It just made me feel lonely and sad.
My husband died last year and I now live on my own, all except for my cat.
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I’m 58 and don’t know what I will do if he dies too, because then I’ll be really alone.
A friend has asked me to join her for lunch on Christmas Day but I don’t want to go. She’ll have family there and that’s going to be awkward for me.
I’m flying to Glasgow next week to spend time with my son and his wife and three kids over New Year.
There’s no room in their flat, so he’s booked a hotel room for me at the end of his street but I wish I was staying with him.
DEIDRE SAYS: I understand how hard Christmas can be when you’ve lost someone close.
Try to accept invitations from friends because it shows they care and it will give a focus to your day even if you have reservations. Your son, too, is doing his best.
My e-leaflet Coping With Bereavement suggests sources of support.