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I want to add excitement to the bedroom but worry it’ll come across as seedy to my girlfriend


DEAR DEIDRE: I’D like to add some excitement to my sex life but am I too seedy if I ask my girlfriend to dress up in the bedroom?

I am happy with things in as they are but, now and again, I think it would be fun to try something different.

I like the idea of my girlfriend dressing up but I don’t know how she would react to this.
I’m 33 and she is 31. We’ve been together for four years. We have a great relationship.
I worry she will think that she’s not enough for me. I don’t want to upset her but I just want to try to vary things.

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DEIDRE SAYS: That’s fair enough but don’t launch the topic by pushing your agenda, which could make her feel under-valued.

Say you wonder if she has any suggestions that would make sex more thrilling and satisfying for her.

Give her space and listen. Then she is likely to be more receptive to your ideas. My e-leaflet 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can help you both.

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