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I’ve got 13 siblings & I’d warn anyone off a big family – you never get enough attention & eldest parent the little ones

A GIRL with 13 biological siblings has shared what it's really like growing up in a big family and why she's warning others not to maximise their brood.

TikTok user known as Pearpear has found herself going viral, thanks to sharing stories about her huge family and all her siblings - eight sisters, four brothers and one non-binary sibling.

Born and raised in an Irish Catholic household, Pearpear and her siblings grew up on a soy bean farm in the middle of Ohio in the US and she says her childhood was not only "unique" because of the size of her family, but due to her mum being a single mum too.

She explained that her dad passed away when she was young, meaning a lot of her older siblings had to take on a lot of responsibilities from a young age.

While she says she's super "grateful" for every single one of her siblings, Pearpear is warning against having a family as big as hers - raising issues like kids feeling like they're not getting enough attention and having to grow up way too quickly.

For instance, her older siblings ended up parenting the younger ones.

In a video she shared to social media that has been watched over 1.8million times, Pearpear listed all the reasons why she thinks having a big family is not a good idea.

"Please don't have 14 kids," she said, explaining: "I grew up with 13 biological siblings and this is why you should not have this many kids.

"Do not get me wrong, I am incredibly thankful for each and every one of my siblings, however, growing up with that many siblings also has it's negative implications."

Not enough attention

Pearpear warns that each individual child won't be able to get the same amount of attention from their parents when the brood is too big - and it can lead to kids acting out.

"No matter how hard you try, there is absolutely no way that each and every one of those kids is going to have an equal amount of attention from the parent," she claims.

"My situation was especially unique. Not only did I grow up with 13 biological siblings, but I also had a single mum because my dad passed away when I was young.

"When I was a teenager I started acting out in negative ways because I wanted that attention that I was being starved from which continued on in to my young adult life."

The eldest parent the little ones

Pearpear revealed that the age gap between the oldest of her siblings and the youngest is 20 years nearly to the day.

She was the 12th baby to be born out of the 14 and has had plenty experience of her older siblings playing mum and dad for her.

"The older siblings become the parents of the younger siblings. With that many kids, it is almost impossible to get through every day tasks with two parents and I only had one," she said.

"Therefore, I can genuinely say as teenagers my older sisters raised me. They were the ones making my school lunches, making sure that I brushed my teeth, getting me to and from school - kids shouldn't be forced to grow up like that just because you want to have that many kids."

The teasing is real

In her videos, Pearpear says she had a lot of "fun" growing up in a farmhouse with all of her family and spent most of her childhood playing outside.

While big numbers mean there's always enough people to have full teams for games like volleyball and basketball, it also means that the older kids can poke fun at their younger brothers and sisters.

She revealed in one video: "I was constantly getting messed with. Whenever my older siblings were babysitting us as teenagers, they would invite over all of their high school friends.

"My older siblings would make the younger kids wrestle each other and they would bet on who was going to win. My sister made up the fact that we had another brother named Paul who she ate because he didn't keep his room clean."

Pearpear says the worst time one of the kids got teased was when her siblings told her younger sister that she "wasn't a real person" and joked that "for years" she didn't even believe her sister was real.

"[They said] she was actually just a figment of all of our imaginations and our imaginary friend," she said.

While a big family can come with its cons, Pearpear says there are a lot of pros too - mainly that growing up with eight older sisters meant she had "built-in role models" for her to look up to as a kid - something she says her brothers all benefitted from too.

"It showed me first hand what it was like to be a woman never depending on a man," Pearpear said in one video.

"My older sisters were still children themselves taking care of younger children, none of them were even old enough to have boyfriends. I had built-in role models, you guys."

Thousands have been seen commenting on Pearpear's posts about her siblings, with many praising her for being so honest when talking about having a big family and others sharing their own experiences.

"Thank you for sharing. These are very good reasons to have a smaller family. I appreciate your voice on this," posted one person.

Another follower joked: "Damn. I can't even survive having eight siblings."

A third shared: "As an older sibling who found herself raising her younger siblings, I strongly agree. Please don't have a lot of kids if you can't be there 4 them."

One more said: "Preach, 1 of 10 and there is no possible way to give all of us attention we need and want."

Although, another follower pointed out: "Nothing beats those sibling relationships."

For more real life stories, check out this mum who gave birth to 12lbs girl naturally at home – 'the only pain relief I had was gas and air but it was a calm experience'.

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