DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter is neglecting our grandsons and I don’t know what to do about it.
She’s a single mum of 30.
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Her own mother was abusive towards her which is why I got custody of my two children.
It’s not easy being a single mum – I get it – but she allows a ten and an eight-year-old to walk home from school alone. It’s nearly two miles.
She also makes them get up, get their own breakfast and walk to school alone, while she lazes in bed.
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The youngest one came crying to me last week saying she’d got told off because she hadn’t done her homework, but she said her mum was too busy playing on her phone to help her.
I’m their grandfather of 56.
DEIDRE SAYS: There is no legal age when children can walk to school on their own but some schools advise that eight or over is preferable.
If they are organising themselves for school, while your daughter is there, she could be teaching them valuable life skills.
Without blaming your daughter, offer to help and keep the caring dialogue open.
But if you do see signs of neglect, like they are hungry, please contact the NSPCC (nspcc.org.uk, 0808 800 5000) for help.