Even if you've never watched When Harry Met Sally, the famous scene of Meg Ryan in Katz's Deli has become part of the cultural discourse.

How women enjoy sex is a topic frequently discussed - and actor Saffy Dalencia says she believes being loud is a sign of empowerment.

The 23-year-old claims it makes the act "more pleasurable" and shows that you're comfortable in your own skin.

But she admits there are downsides - including a noise complaint from her exes mum, while another flatmate once asked if she was in pain.

She told Fabulous : "What can I say? I don’t do it on purpose,", adding that she's tried to keep the noise down.

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The 23-year-old says people often complain about her loudness

“Of course I’ve tried to keep a lid on it. I did ask one boyfriend to put his hand over my mouth. But I can’t not make a sound. It’s more pleasurable if I release it,

“I’ve never not had to be quiet, and besides a lot of men make grunting noises too.

“Expressing how we feel when we receive pleasure is really important. If it makes sex better – what’s more fun than that?”

Saffy says she didn't really know what she was doing until she turned 19 and became more sexually confident.

After learning to love her body, she says her time at university was a real eye-opener and she started being much noisier.

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She says being noisy has made her more self-confident

But she also realised how loud she was after her flatmate sent a message to the group chat asking if someone was in pain after hearing a racket.

Despite the complaints, Saffy says she went on to receive a complaint at least once a month but says she wasn't making loud groans.

She added: "I can’t describe the noises I make. They’re genuinely pleasurable sex noises. Not a groan or a moan but more of a vocal pleasure.

“I never start out loud at the beginning when we’re having foreplay, it just happened that as I got to the point where we were having sex and I was building up to climaxing my appreciation and vocal levels got louder and louder. It was really empowering.”

But she was mortified to receive a complaint from her boyfriend's mum while they were staying there one weekend.

The mixologist was single during most of 2020 and describes going without sex during lockdown as a "nightmare."

But as restrictions ease, Saffy thinks everyone to really “go for it” in the bedroom when the time is right.

She added: “My advice to all women is to not hold back. Allow yourself to be free and if that means making a noise then go for it.”