Dear Colleen
My life is messed up and I don't know how to organize it. I have been having an affair with my husbandfor a while with someone I met through a friend.
He is also married and has children, but he is exciting and sexy.
I've been in the water for a long time in my marriage, but I'm ignoring this issue and I think it's even easier to avoid problems at home.
My husband and I had been together long before we got married, so we should have separated instead of walking down the aisle. We were teenage lovers, but I think we always expected to be together.
We rarely have sex, but a few months ago, after he went out with his companions, I went out with me and then went home.
We both drank a few cups and ended up having sex.
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I have now discovered that I am pregnant. It definitely belongs to him and I don't know what to do.
My husband is overjoyed, but I don't want to continue this marriage. The man I'm having an affair says it doesn't change anything for him and he still wants to be with me.
How can I organize my life?
Colleen says
To be honest, didn't she think she could get pregnant? She doesn't seem to think about the consequences of her current choices.
I think it's important not only to let you do things, but to control them. That means facing this incident and what you are trying to do with it.
If you really don't want to be with her husband, you need to tell her husband. You can't be with him for a baby-taking a child into a broken relationship doesn't fix it.
Yes, your husband gets angry and hurt, and maybe if you've been a couple for a long time, so will probably many others.
But once the news comes out and all the dramas are over, you can start thinking about how you're going.
But I don't know what this other guy promises you – when he says he's leaving his wife or the baby doesn't change things Do you just want to stay asleep with? ??
Don't leave your husband to him. If you end your marriage, make sure it's the right decision for you.
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