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I had to hide in the garden after my partner threw me down the stairs — sometimes I even sleep in the shed


DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD to hide in the garden last night after my husband threw me down the stairs.

He becomes so angry sometimes I get very scared. It gets so bad that I often sleep in the shed to escape his temper.

He blamed me for our latest argument and called my parents, who were worried about my bruises, to tell them it was all my fault.

I am a 31-year-old gay guy and my husband is 33.

We have been married for three years.

I do love him but, if I am honest, I am frightened of him.

I don’t know what to do.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You may love his good side but he is a dangerous, controlling bully and you are at risk of serious injury or worse.

You don’t deserve any of this.

Please do reach out for informed support on the way forward.

Be honest with your parents about the situation and contact LGBT+ anti-violence charity Galop (, 0800 999 5428).

And see my e-leaflet, Abusive Partner?

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