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How do I tell the boy I met online I’m a virgin and not ready to have sex?


DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I tell someone I have never met face to face I’m not ready to have sex with him?

I’m a girl of 20 and a virgin. I have had a few boyfriends but nothing serious.

I met this guy online recently and he has started sending me messages about us having sex.

He is 25. I don’t think I am ready for sex with him and am waiting for the right person.

I feel he is rushing me into it before I’m ready.

I want to tell him I’m not ready for sex but want to explore with him?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do not let him pressure you. Spell it out clearly you are not ready to have sex.

Do not let anything develop sexually, even online, until you are sure you both truly care for each other.

If he really cares for you, he will not just be after sex.

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