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A one-off comment my daughter made me realise my wife was having an affair

A DAD has revealed how his daughter’s off-hand comment exposed his wife’s affair with their neighbour.

Peter* was only half listening as his daughter nonsensically recounted everything she had done that day.

But suddenly the girl said something that made him stop in his tracks: she mentioned that her mum, and Peter’s wife of 14 years, had gone to the neighbour’s house for a while.

As alarm bells started ringing in his mind, Peter turned to his daughter and asked her to clarify exactly where “Mummy” had been.

She promptly recounted how she had come home from school to find her mum gone when the neighbour poking his head out the door to say she would be "right out".

“So I confronted my wife the next day and just like any cheater she tried to lie at first and then she finally broke down,” Peter posted on Reddit.

“She swears that all they did was kiss and touch then she stopped it because it felt wrong.”

Understandably Peter was completely devastated by this shock revelation.

He and his wife were high school sweethearts and have been together for over 25 years, including 14 years of marriage.

The length of their relationship also meant that Peter knew exactly how his wife acted when she was lying.

So when she swore that she hadn’t actually slept with the neighbour, he could tell that she wasn’t telling the truth.

“I know how she lies to everybody, and how good she is at it,” Peter explained.

“So I believe that it went further than the kissing.”

Whatever happens, remember to be good to yourself, and try to keep your head above water

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Peter became even more sceptical about this when his wife revealed that she and the neighbour had been speaking for several weeks before they met up at his house.

What started as an innocent message soon turned X-rated, with the pair exchanging naked pictures and flirty texts behind both of their spouses’ backs.

But she still maintained that when they finally met in person, it never went further than kissing.

“She said that it was just wrong and stopped immediately,” Peter said.

“She said that when it was texting it wasn't real and when it got down to it in real life she felt like she was going to vomit.”

“But I just don't see two adults stopping given the opportunity to do what they had been talking about for three weeks.”

Initially, Peter asked his wife to move out – but after talking about it in marriage counselling, he changed his mind.

Even though he didn’t trust her, he wanted the kids to have both their parents under the same roof for the time being.

Peter said that he still loves his wife and wants to be able to move on from this – but doesn’t know how.

This is partly because he doesn’t believe it stopped at kissing, but also because she won’t him tell the neighbour’s wife what happened.

“She said letting the wife know would hurt her because they used to be friends,” Peter explains.

“I feel like I'm a bad guy because I'm holding onto a secret.

“My father had a mistress for years and I wasn’t allowed to tell my mother until he came clean, so I have a low tolerance for secrets and also cheating.”

Reddit commenters jumped in with plenty of advice for Peter, counselling him not to rush into any rash decisions while he was still so upset.

“I think at this point you have to assume she did cheat on you and then ask yourself whether you can forgive her,” one Redditor suggested.

“Figure out what it will take for you to be able to stay with your wife and not be thinking about what happened in ways that interferes with you and your family’s well being. It will take time.”

“Whatever happens, remember to be good to yourself, and try to keep your head above water,” someone else wrote.

“Obviously, you can't move to stop this. She has to be truly remorseful about her behaviour, not just getting caught,” another commenter added.

“Counselling is a good first start. She is going to have to make major reparations to repair the relationship. She might not be up to the task. Good luck.”

*Names have been changed.

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